Break The Ice!

Sometimes we might want to befriend someone but we don’t have the guts to go and talk to them. Sometimes we might want to compliment a colleague but we don’t because we don’t know them. Sometimes we would want to say a loved one how much we love them but we don’t because they already know. We are depressed and badly need a hug but we don’t ask for it because the person whom we want to hug is the reason behind our suffering.

These things have happened to me too, I had a very bitter argument with my really close friend and unfortunately we had to stay together as we were flat-mates. We moved away whenever we saw each other or just kept passing sarcastic comments whenever around. This continued through the rest of the week. I was so badly hurt that I even decided to leave for home earlier than I planned for my summer break, because it was getting uncomfortable for her with me around and vice versa, but for some reason she denied letting me go earlier than we planned. As time went by, we were getting comfortable with each other and apparently I missed spending time with her. I missed spending hours chattering about the senseless stuff, our coffee trips to CCDs, our shopping sprees, having lunch and dinner together, teasing each other for any stupid thing we could recall.

While leaving she just kept looking at me packing things and said nothing. She followed me wherever I went. I wanted to give her a warm hug and apologize for whatever happened. I didn’t care to argue on whose mistake it was. It didn’t really matter. We had not shared a word in so many days. She came till the gate to see me off and when we went near the cab, I just blurted out those golden words, “Hey, can I get a farewell hug?” and at that time I saw the twinkle in her eyes, “Sure! Why not?” and she hugged me. Truly, that was the warmest hug I have had till date. We felt much better and very normal after that. When in the cab, I got a text from her which said, “I would have died of guiltiness if you hadn’t asked for that farewell hug. I am happy that you finally broke the ice!”

You would have come across similar instances too in your life and yes, that’s the right term, you should learn to break the ice. Also, you should know to clear out those pessimistic thoughts off the mind and stop asking all those “what if” questions. Let’s say that you are looking at a guy/girl for a long time and you really want to talk to him/her. A series of questions appear in your head, What if he/she doesn’t respond? What if this doesn’t work out? What if he/she’s already got a girl/boy friend? What if this? What if that? And then you start answering those pointless questions and funniest part is you say, “Yea! So let’s just look at him/her and live with that pleasure.” Jeez! These are assumptions that your mind has made, but you never know reality is totally different. So why don’t you just go and discover it? If it works out you have the guy/girl you want. Trust me, after 5 years down the lane when you think of this, it’ll bring a smile on your face. It has to me.

My best friend always remarks, “Aashi, your life is too interesting to be real. These small instances make you so lively.” To that I would just say, my life’s interesting because I make it interesting. I want to talk to someone, I go and talk to them. I am angry, I tell them that I am angry. I want to compliment someone, I do it without thinking too much. I like someone, I tell them that I like them. So everything that you try is really worth it! Move your rear off that comfort zone and go talk to those you want to talk to, apologize, compliment, smile, cry, ignore, get angry and show it to them. That’s all life is about! So just do it. If you don’t, you better don’t think about it in future and regret it. When you look back at the path you crossed, the number of times you smile counts and not the times you frown. Live a life that one dreams about, a care-free life. Don’t lead an awfully boring and painful life. Make every moment you live, worth treasuring!